Comments on: The Promise of a Father

By: Single Mom Seeking

Single Mom Seeking — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 23:36:23 +0000

Wow, reading this was emotional. Thank you. I’m in awe of your forgiveness and your will to be there for your own kids, making different choices.

By: Nena X

Nena X — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:44:31 +0000

Sounds a lot like my relationship with my biological sperm donor only perhaps a bit better. Our kids only know one grandparent and that is my mother. They do not know my husband’s parents or family and the sad part about that is we live only miles from his mother and brother. It is so sad to know we are not the only ones with such estranged relationships with our parents but isn’t it amazing at how we have overcome our parent’s shortcomings and I think it has helped us to be better parents to our kids. I cannot imagine not knowing my children…no matter how hard and stressful it is at times.

By: Scott

Scott — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:14:33 +0000

I salute you for giving him chance after chance…. I don’t know that I could have done that.

By: BellaDaddy

BellaDaddy — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:37:33 +0000

YOU are the amazing Dad in all of this.

Happy T-Day to you and yours, my friend!

Kudos!

By: NathanRising

NathanRising — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:34:36 +0000

First off, thank you for commenting on my post! I’m glad you did because it led me to your blog, and it was nice reading this post of yours. Well, I mean it wasn’t so nice how your dad has treated you (or, more appropriately, failed to treat you) for the duration of your life, but I always find it touching when people share such soul-touching aspects of their lives. I had a dad who was physically there… but emotionally, he was nowhere around. It was hard. Now that I’m an adult, however, things have gotten somewhat better. I truly hope your father makes good on his word and is there for your children. He owes you that much.
-Jen

By: Otter

Otter — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 19:59:30 +0000

You are a good man for giving your father so many chances and especially giving him a chance with your kids. I hope it works out for you.

By: john cave osborne

john cave osborne — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:52:53 +0000

First off, that stint in KY? Please believe me when I say that not everyone from the SE is like that. I’m from Knoxville, TN and don’t see color, but rather character, and (switching gears), your post is dripping with it. I had a complicated relationship w/ my dad, though nowhere near the degree to which you did. Eloquently stated. You broke the chain. No wonder he’s proud of you. -jco-

By: Lynn

Lynn — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:49:06 +0000

It’s all got to start somewhere Mocha….at least you are trying. Despite him and all the years of absence you are still a good example to your boys on how to grow up to be responsible men and handle their business.

My best, Lynn

By: Mckenzie

Mckenzie — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 04:05:25 +0000

Mocha Dad,

Wow. What a post. I am sad that you had to experience what you did, but I am happy to see that you are striving to be a good father. Thank you for such an honest post.

By: Mr, Man

Mr, Man — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 03:56:10 +0000

Mocha Dad-I feel you on this one. As you know, I haven’t seen my biological in 29 years. The pain is long gone, but the lessons learned are not. What I have learned from him is to be everything that he was not: present, involved, nurturing, and loving. I see so much of me in my son in the way my father and I used to interact. What I don’t see is how a real man could walk away from that because a relationship went bad. I am thankful for the lesson he taught me: not to follow in his footstep. I am a better dad for this reason. You are too.