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The Live-in Boyfriend, The Monkey, and The Books

captainunderpantsFor much of my life, we had no TV. When we finally got one, it was a tiny black and white set with a wire hanger antenna and broken knobs. Therefore, my main form of entertainment was reading.

I loved going to the comic book store with my cousin. We’d spend hours perusing the boxes to find that perfect, Mylar-wrapped gem. We’d devour our new finds and hungrily await our next trip.

During summer breaks, I spent my days in the library where I participated in all of the reading programs and won all of the reading prizes. I often looked like a pack mule as I carried my haul of books back home.

As you can tell, reading has always been a huge part of my life. That’s why I was overjoyed when my kids expressed excitement about attending their school’s book fair. Memories flooded my mind when I saw their Scholastic catalogs and order forms. When I was in elementary school, I eagerly anticipated those catalogs. Book ordering season was my favorite time of year. Although we never had much disposable income, my mother always found a few dollars to reading material.

I’d always order Peanuts collections, Choose Your Own Adventure Books, and Encyclopedia Brown mysteries. These books made me laugh and took me on incredible journeys that transcended my humble surroundings.

My children have a much more comfortable life than I did, but they still seek out new worlds through books. We often read together and take family outings to the bookstore.

To encourage more families to read together, my kids’ school held a family night at the book fair. There were prize drawings, science stations, and entertainment (actually it was a guy in a Curious George suit who frightened half the kids). But the stars of the show were the books.

It was great to see mothers and fathers browsing through the bookshelves with their children. I could tell when parents stumbled across books from their youths because their faces would light up with glee and they would beckon their child over to have a look.

On different occasions, my wife, KayEm, and I recommended Tales of a Fourth Grade Nothing to our daughter, Nee. To our disappointment, she wasn’t interested in the book. Instead, she chose a book titled, “Boys Are Dogs.” Since KayEm and I were unfamiliar with the book and author, we read the summary to make sure that it was appropriate for her age:

Being the new kid in school is often hard enough (So far so, good. Nee was the new girl this year. She could relate), but Annabelle finds that dealing with the idiosyncrasies of sixth-grade boys is truly daunting (Boys! A red flag for Daddy). She misses her friends and doesn’t know how she feels about her mother’s live-in boyfriend, Ted (Sorry, Ted. You were the deal-breaker).

KayEm and I are definitely not prudes, but we didn’t want to have to explain a live-in boyfriend to a third grader. Nee had to choose another book. She selected a book called, “Sheep.” It’s about a dog that befriends and orphan. Approved!

My 6-year-old son, N, took a different approach to ensure he could get the book he really wanted. Before we left home for the book fair, he launched into his sales pitch.

“Some of the kids in my class keep bragging about their Bakugan toys and books,” he said with a forlorn look. “They keep waving them in my face and it makes me feel bad.”

“Oh, I feel SO bad for you,” I said. “You have been SO deprived.”

“But, Daddy,” he continued. “I really, really want a Bakugan book.”

“We’ll decide which books you get at the fair,” I said.

“Can I get a Bakugan toy too?” he asked.

“No, just a book,” I said before realizing that I just been hoodwinked. He threw in the toy so I’d settle on the book. He could teach Zig Ziglar a few things about selling.

N got his wish and found a Bakugan book that I approved of. But he also got an additional bonus: A Captain Underpants Book Bundle. N and I had to smuggle this score past KayEm because she is not a fan of the series’ potty humor.

We wrapped up the night with my reading Where the Wild Things Are to the kids before bedtime. As I prepared for bed, I stared at the stack of books of my nightstand. Should I think and grow rich or make friends and influence people?

I ultimately decided to watch TV with KayEm.

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  • http://kelliinreallife.typepad.com Kelli

    Oh how I remember the Scholastic Book Fairs. And every other Friday (which I now understand was payday) Mom and I went to Waldenbooks where she let me pick out 2 books. I’d be done with one by the next night. I loved A Wrinkle in Time, Judy Blume books, and the American Girls collection. My mom still has a bookshelf full of all the books I read from age 5 to 18.

  • http://kelliinreallife.typepad.com Kelli

    Oh how I remember the Scholastic Book Fairs. And every other Friday (which I now understand was payday) Mom and I went to Waldenbooks where she let me pick out 2 books. I’d be done with one by the next night. I loved A Wrinkle in Time, Judy Blume books, and the American Girls collection. My mom still has a bookshelf full of all the books I read from age 5 to 18.

  • http://toywithme.com toywithme

    I was more thrilled than my daughter when it was time to order books. Now she is in high school and it’s all in the past. Longing for my childhood.

  • http://toywithme.com toywithme

    I was more thrilled than my daughter when it was time to order books. Now she is in high school and it’s all in the past. Longing for my childhood.

  • http://www.rockanddrool.com melissa

    Try “Superfudge” by Judy Blume. My kids, both girls and boys, loved those! Also, try “The Egypt Game.” It’s one of my favorite books from yesteryear! Also, “Mandy” by Julie Andrews.

  • http://www.rockanddrool.com melissa

    Try “Superfudge” by Judy Blume. My kids, both girls and boys, loved those! Also, try “The Egypt Game.” It’s one of my favorite books from yesteryear! Also, “Mandy” by Julie Andrews.

  • http://www.watchingthewaters.wordpress.com Corey

    Oooooh… my parents did not believe in the book fairs.. we were LIBRARY users.. and my kids also rarely get to OWN their books. I was a kid who rarely met a book I didn’t love.. but in particular, I remember loving all things Judy Blume, Beverly Cleary, just devouring the Choose Your Own Adventure Books (and sticking pieces of paper in at each fork in the road, so I could go back and see EVERY variation of the story). I still LOVE to read, and all of our kids are readers.. I think this is because they have been read to since the moment they came home (5/6 were adopted) and because they are just surrounded by books. Because most of our kids are black, being raised by white parents, we DO invest in books with black characters.. my girls particularly love the Sugar Plum Ballerina series by Whoopi Goldberg, the HodgePodge series by Kim Wayans (actually Amy HodgePodge is multiracial), and Ruby and the Booker Boys series by Derrick Barnes.

  • http://www.watchingthewaters.wordpress.com Corey

    Oooooh… my parents did not believe in the book fairs.. we were LIBRARY users.. and my kids also rarely get to OWN their books. I was a kid who rarely met a book I didn’t love.. but in particular, I remember loving all things Judy Blume, Beverly Cleary, just devouring the Choose Your Own Adventure Books (and sticking pieces of paper in at each fork in the road, so I could go back and see EVERY variation of the story). I still LOVE to read, and all of our kids are readers.. I think this is because they have been read to since the moment they came home (5/6 were adopted) and because they are just surrounded by books. Because most of our kids are black, being raised by white parents, we DO invest in books with black characters.. my girls particularly love the Sugar Plum Ballerina series by Whoopi Goldberg, the HodgePodge series by Kim Wayans (actually Amy HodgePodge is multiracial), and Ruby and the Booker Boys series by Derrick Barnes.

  • http://www.boardinginbedlam.blogspot.com Arby

    My favorite childhood books were the “Great Brain” books by John D. Fitzgerald, illustrated by Mercer Meyer. They are out of print and difficult to find. Of the series, “The Great Brain at the Academy” was my favorite. I discovered these books on my own in third grade at the school library.

    As for motivating my children to read, reading to them on a regular basis has been the key to unlocking their desire to read. It was easier with the first child than with the second, but he caught on. He just did it when he was a little older. We’re still waiting on the girl. She loves stories. She loves to be read to. Her developmental delays will make her the oldest child to learn to read in our family.

    That’s okay.

  • http://www.boardinginbedlam.blogspot.com Arby

    My favorite childhood books were the “Great Brain” books by John D. Fitzgerald, illustrated by Mercer Meyer. They are out of print and difficult to find. Of the series, “The Great Brain at the Academy” was my favorite. I discovered these books on my own in third grade at the school library.

    As for motivating my children to read, reading to them on a regular basis has been the key to unlocking their desire to read. It was easier with the first child than with the second, but he caught on. He just did it when he was a little older. We’re still waiting on the girl. She loves stories. She loves to be read to. Her developmental delays will make her the oldest child to learn to read in our family.

    That’s okay.

  • http://www.theycallmejane.wordpress.com Jane

    The best way to motivate is to read yourself, but you already know (and do) that. We read just about every night before bed together. Lately, my boys (ages 5 & 6) really enjoy the Magic Treehouse books. I’m not as fond of them (but only because of the writing quality) but they love them. And it’s inspired them to learn more about history – which is a good thing. My favorites when I was younger include: How Joe the Bear and Sam the Mouse Got Together, The Little Prince, Dr. Seuss books, Judy Blume books and Nancy Drew.

  • http://www.theycallmejane.wordpress.com Jane

    The best way to motivate is to read yourself, but you already know (and do) that. We read just about every night before bed together. Lately, my boys (ages 5 & 6) really enjoy the Magic Treehouse books. I’m not as fond of them (but only because of the writing quality) but they love them. And it’s inspired them to learn more about history – which is a good thing. My favorites when I was younger include: How Joe the Bear and Sam the Mouse Got Together, The Little Prince, Dr. Seuss books, Judy Blume books and Nancy Drew.

  • KayEm

    In our house, we love books!

  • KayEm

    In our house, we love books!

  • http://naturalpapa.com Derek

    We’re big readers, so we’ve never had to motivate our kids to read (rather, we have to cut them off at the library or they’ll clean the place out!). They have always seen us reading (and we don’t have a TV) so it’s a natural thing in our house. I’m feeling pretty fortunate that we don’t have to try to get them to read.

    My favorite books as a kid were series like the Hardy Boys and Tom Swift (with a healthy portion of super hero comic books, of course) and I’ve recently gone back and re-read some classics like 10,000 Leagues Under the Sea, but you know, they just don’t captivate me like they used to.

    (And I’ve got the Magic of Thinking Big by my bed, right underneath The Power of Positive Thinking)

  • http://naturalpapa.com Derek

    We’re big readers, so we’ve never had to motivate our kids to read (rather, we have to cut them off at the library or they’ll clean the place out!). They have always seen us reading (and we don’t have a TV) so it’s a natural thing in our house. I’m feeling pretty fortunate that we don’t have to try to get them to read.

    My favorite books as a kid were series like the Hardy Boys and Tom Swift (with a healthy portion of super hero comic books, of course) and I’ve recently gone back and re-read some classics like 10,000 Leagues Under the Sea, but you know, they just don’t captivate me like they used to.

    (And I’ve got the Magic of Thinking Big by my bed, right underneath The Power of Positive Thinking)

  • http://momsrevolution.blogspot.com Carolyn

    With 4 kids in school, I am entrenched with Scholastic Book Fairs all year long. I really looked forward to them when I was a kid in school and remember vividly picking out the “Curious George” books and “Where The Wild Things Are”. What I’m most proud of is that my kids have far more books than they do toys. I didn’t have many growing up as reading was really promoted; just expected to “happen”. I wanted to make sure my kids had lot’s of books, and they do. They are way ahead today because of it, and I spend more time telling them not to stay up too late reading than I do telling them to not stay up too late playing video games or watching TV. :)

  • http://momsrevolution.blogspot.com Carolyn

    With 4 kids in school, I am entrenched with Scholastic Book Fairs all year long. I really looked forward to them when I was a kid in school and remember vividly picking out the “Curious George” books and “Where The Wild Things Are”. What I’m most proud of is that my kids have far more books than they do toys. I didn’t have many growing up as reading was really promoted; just expected to “happen”. I wanted to make sure my kids had lot’s of books, and they do. They are way ahead today because of it, and I spend more time telling them not to stay up too late reading than I do telling them to not stay up too late playing video games or watching TV. :)

  • http://thesuburbanscrawl.blogspot.com Melisa

    I’m with Melissa: the only Judy Blume book I got my boys to read was “Superfudge”.

    MY personal all-time favorite book from when I was younger is “From the Mixed Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler”. LOVED IT. Still a good read, too! I also loved Nancy Drew and the Hardy Boys.

    My older son didn’t need motivation to read; he’s been a Harry Potter freak for the last 8 years or so and moved into other stuff like Eragon. My younger one started with Captain Underpants (you can’t deny the funny on that series) and then became attached to the Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snicket, and now he’s into sci-fi and non-fiction books about guitars. It was a little more work with him; mostly what “motivated” him was when we removed his usage of in-house technology. :)

  • http://thesuburbanscrawl.blogspot.com Melisa

    I’m with Melissa: the only Judy Blume book I got my boys to read was “Superfudge”.

    MY personal all-time favorite book from when I was younger is “From the Mixed Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler”. LOVED IT. Still a good read, too! I also loved Nancy Drew and the Hardy Boys.

    My older son didn’t need motivation to read; he’s been a Harry Potter freak for the last 8 years or so and moved into other stuff like Eragon. My younger one started with Captain Underpants (you can’t deny the funny on that series) and then became attached to the Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snicket, and now he’s into sci-fi and non-fiction books about guitars. It was a little more work with him; mostly what “motivated” him was when we removed his usage of in-house technology. :)

  • http://worldofweasels.blogspot.com WeaselMomma

    Your son sure is a smart little bugger! Some of my Weasels love reading and some of them absolutely hate it. The youngest is currently infatuated with Chika, Chicka, Boom, Boom and reading/singing it ad nausium to the point of making the rest of us nuts.

  • http://worldofweasels.blogspot.com WeaselMomma

    Your son sure is a smart little bugger! Some of my Weasels love reading and some of them absolutely hate it. The youngest is currently infatuated with Chika, Chicka, Boom, Boom and reading/singing it ad nausium to the point of making the rest of us nuts.

  • DigitalDiva107

    Love Scholastic. Always sent book ordering forms home with my Kindergarten students. Wanted parents to understand the importance of building a Home Library for their children.

  • DigitalDiva107

    Love Scholastic. Always sent book ordering forms home with my Kindergarten students. Wanted parents to understand the importance of building a Home Library for their children.

  • http://www.momblebee.com/blog Cheryl aka Momblebee

    We are major Roald Dahl fans in this house. The kids in the books are always the smart, kind and insightful ones and they always have power to change what’s not good. Full of fantasy and crazy humor. I loved his books as a kid and was happy to see my son enjoying them as well.

  • http://www.momblebee.com/blog Cheryl aka Momblebee

    We are major Roald Dahl fans in this house. The kids in the books are always the smart, kind and insightful ones and they always have power to change what’s not good. Full of fantasy and crazy humor. I loved his books as a kid and was happy to see my son enjoying them as well.

  • http://www.halfpastkissintime.com Mrs4444

    I loved the tone of this post, Mocha Dad :) I, too, have fond memories of reading as a kid, and I agree with your vigilance in regard to the appropriateness of certain books for your kids. You’re a great dad.

  • http://www.halfpastkissintime.com Mrs4444

    I loved the tone of this post, Mocha Dad :) I, too, have fond memories of reading as a kid, and I agree with your vigilance in regard to the appropriateness of certain books for your kids. You’re a great dad.

  • http://tanyetta.com tanyetta

    Reading is Fundamental! I remember this slogan in school when we were growing up: Reading is Fundamental! I’m almost 40 and can still remember the buzz around school when the book fair came to our school. Great Post.

  • http://tanyetta.com tanyetta

    Reading is Fundamental! I remember this slogan in school when we were growing up: Reading is Fundamental! I’m almost 40 and can still remember the buzz around school when the book fair came to our school. Great Post.

  • http://www.halfpastkissintime.com Mrs4444

    P.S. Thanks for the inspiration-I’m linking to you tomorrow….

  • http://www.halfpastkissintime.com Mrs4444

    P.S. Thanks for the inspiration-I’m linking to you tomorrow….

  • http://www.tessyandtab.com sara

    Reading this post and comments with great interest, as a mom of a 5 & 8 year old. I had to comment because in reading through all the thoughts & ideas, I kept thinking “Tessy and Tab”! It’s a great kids reading magazine that my daughter is in love with.

    It gets her in a reading mode, she waits for it in the mail (addressed to HER), and is a great sort-of starter kit for an engaging “book” to sit down with.

    Plus the topics are actually relevant to stuff she has experienced, like Soccer game, going to the Airport, getting hurt, etc. Very well thought out and illustrated. They also have a TV Turnoff kit, so when I saw that I knew this company related to some our “screentime” struggles.

    So there’s a recommendation, and thanks again for the great post (& comments!)

  • http://www.tessyandtab.com sara

    Reading this post and comments with great interest, as a mom of a 5 & 8 year old. I had to comment because in reading through all the thoughts & ideas, I kept thinking “Tessy and Tab”! It’s a great kids reading magazine that my daughter is in love with.

    It gets her in a reading mode, she waits for it in the mail (addressed to HER), and is a great sort-of starter kit for an engaging “book” to sit down with.

    Plus the topics are actually relevant to stuff she has experienced, like Soccer game, going to the Airport, getting hurt, etc. Very well thought out and illustrated. They also have a TV Turnoff kit, so when I saw that I knew this company related to some our “screentime” struggles.

    So there’s a recommendation, and thanks again for the great post (& comments!)

  • http://www.carmasez.com carma

    The re-design gets an A+!! So much easier to read the posts and your words stand out a lot more since the format has been simplified. Your writing is very engaging – and now it is front and center. I’m going to check out your tabs up top. Much more navigable.

    …and Captain Underpants is an “Epic novel” so you know it has got to be good!! My son has the series, as well as an inflatable Captain Underpants that is in the corner of his room. Even at 13, he is not too old to still appreciate the humor of Captian U P.

    Years from now I am expecting to see your son’s name on those wealth-building seminars that travel across the country featuring Rudy Guilani and Zig Ziglar :-) You’ve got a sharp kid there!

  • http://www.carmasez.com carma

    The re-design gets an A+!! So much easier to read the posts and your words stand out a lot more since the format has been simplified. Your writing is very engaging – and now it is front and center. I’m going to check out your tabs up top. Much more navigable.

    …and Captain Underpants is an “Epic novel” so you know it has got to be good!! My son has the series, as well as an inflatable Captain Underpants that is in the corner of his room. Even at 13, he is not too old to still appreciate the humor of Captian U P.

    Years from now I am expecting to see your son’s name on those wealth-building seminars that travel across the country featuring Rudy Guilani and Zig Ziglar :-) You’ve got a sharp kid there!

  • http://daddystired.blogspot.com Doug @ Daddy’s Tired

    I loved the book fairs as a kid, I can’t wait to take my little girl to hers (althought we’re still about 4 years out so…).

    If you loved comics try the Calvin and Hobbes books, I loved them growing up and they’re still funny now. It kept me interested in reading as a kid even after we got a color TV.

  • http://daddystired.blogspot.com Doug @ Daddy’s Tired

    I loved the book fairs as a kid, I can’t wait to take my little girl to hers (althought we’re still about 4 years out so…).

    If you loved comics try the Calvin and Hobbes books, I loved them growing up and they’re still funny now. It kept me interested in reading as a kid even after we got a color TV.

  • http://happynappybride.wordpress.com/ Dawn

    Love the blog…just stumbled upon it! If video killed the radio star, then tv killed the book. I was an English major in college, so books are essential in my life. As the future stepmom of a new reader, it’s been fun to watch her get excited about reading.

  • http://happynappybride.wordpress.com/ Dawn

    Love the blog…just stumbled upon it! If video killed the radio star, then tv killed the book. I was an English major in college, so books are essential in my life. As the future stepmom of a new reader, it’s been fun to watch her get excited about reading.

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