Comments on: Learning to Love http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/ The Musings of a Harried Dad In His Quest to Raise Three Kids Sun, 14 Mar 2010 18:48:50 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Tyler @ Building Camelot http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-125 Tyler @ Building Camelot Tue, 04 Nov 2008 16:40:08 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-125 ...oh yea...added you to my reader! …oh yea…added you to my reader!

]]> By: Tyler @ Building Camelot http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-124 Tyler @ Building Camelot Tue, 04 Nov 2008 16:39:43 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-124 Very touching article. This is so true even if you have daughters, like myself, and makes me want to run give them a hug. My dad always made it a point to tell me that he loves me even after my parents got divorced and I can only imagine how you needed your father. Glad to hear that you are connecting and I hope to hear more. Very touching article. This is so true even if you have daughters, like myself, and makes me want to run give them a hug. My dad always made it a point to tell me that he loves me even after my parents got divorced and I can only imagine how you needed your father. Glad to hear that you are connecting and I hope to hear more.

]]> By: Ginger Jones http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-123 Ginger Jones Tue, 04 Nov 2008 01:03:14 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-123 Sounds like you have a great son--and he has a great Dad. Sounds like you have a great son–and he has a great Dad.

]]> By: DC Urban Dad http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-118 DC Urban Dad Mon, 03 Nov 2008 11:48:40 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-118 That is a powerful post. Will be calling my Dad today. That is a powerful post. Will be calling my Dad today.

]]> By: Raging Dad http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-117 Raging Dad Mon, 03 Nov 2008 07:37:31 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-117 Wow, that was a great post, Mocha Dad. Very powerful. I was fortunate to have had a great relationship with my father. He died when I was 18, and I miss him greatly as I try to develop my relationships with my boys. I'll always try to do it like he did. Glad to hear you are connecting. I hope it continues, and is also a potential positive relationship for you son as well. Wow, that was a great post, Mocha Dad. Very powerful. I was fortunate to have had a great relationship with my father. He died when I was 18, and I miss him greatly as I try to develop my relationships with my boys. I’ll always try to do it like he did.

Glad to hear you are connecting. I hope it continues, and is also a potential positive relationship for you son as well.

]]> By: Discovering Dad Blog Carnival - November 2008 | Discovering Dad http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-116 Discovering Dad Blog Carnival - November 2008 | Discovering Dad Mon, 03 Nov 2008 05:00:55 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-116 [...] Pick: Mocha Dad presents Mocha Dad » Learning to Love posted at Mocha Dad.  This is a very powerful post and important for every dad to read.  [...] [...] Pick: Mocha Dad presents Mocha Dad » Learning to Love posted at Mocha Dad.  This is a very powerful post and important for every dad to read.  [...]

]]> By: Guest Post: Fatherhood Facts by Mocha Dad | Black And Married With Kids http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-28 Guest Post: Fatherhood Facts by Mocha Dad | Black And Married With Kids Tue, 16 Sep 2008 10:16:44 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-28 [...] The major reason: He didn’t show love. See my earlier post “Learning to Love.” [...] [...] The major reason: He didn’t show love. See my earlier post “Learning to Love.” [...]

]]> By: beaster http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-14 beaster Mon, 25 Aug 2008 23:56:40 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-14 When I was a kid, I thought my Dad traveled too much as a preacher, building homes and churches (yes, that was selfish), and all of those things a foolish teenager allows herself/himself to believe. My Dad was one of those "old-timers", reluctant to show their feelings, believing if you ate, you should already know you're loved. But I would sit on the sofa next to him anyway and neither of us would speak, sitting in companiable silence. He would ask "Now, what do *you* want?" He tried to sound stern, but I could always see the hint of a smile on his face. After I felt satisfied with his huge “hug”, I would get up and leave. I saw this big smile escaping his face when I left. That was good enough for both of us until he became ill. I broke my "code" with my Dad 12 years ago. I would never end a phone call without saying a heartfelt "I love you." Sometimes I could even get him to do likewise. I definitely believe in saying that 3 letter word, even to my son and he expects a reply when he tells me the same. I am thankful that I was there when he passed away, holding his head in my hand and telling him how much I loved him. You can never get those moments with the ones you love back again. You really do have to love them while they are still here. The last phone conversation I had with my Dad, he asked "Was there ever a time you asked for something you needed and you didn't get it?" I thought for a moment and realized the answer. "No." We talked for almost 2 hours. When the conversation ended, I said, "Daddy, I love you very much." He replied, "I love you too Shug." I never spoke to him again. I am grateful one of us broke the "code of silence" before it was too late. When I was a kid, I thought my Dad traveled too much as a preacher, building homes and churches (yes, that was selfish), and all of those things a foolish teenager allows herself/himself to believe. My Dad was one of those “old-timers”, reluctant to show their feelings, believing if you ate, you should already know you’re loved.

But I would sit on the sofa next to him anyway and neither of us would speak, sitting in companiable silence. He would ask “Now, what do *you* want?” He tried to sound stern, but I could always see the hint of a smile on his face. After I felt satisfied with his huge “hug”, I would get up and leave. I saw this big smile escaping his face when I left.
That was good enough for both of us until he became ill. I broke my “code” with my Dad 12 years ago. I would never end a phone call without saying a heartfelt “I love you.” Sometimes I could even get him to do likewise. I definitely believe in saying that 3 letter word, even to my son and he expects a reply when he tells me the same.

I am thankful that I was there when he passed away, holding his head in my hand and telling him how much I loved him. You can never get those moments with the ones you love back again. You really do have to love them while they are still here. The last phone conversation I had with my Dad, he asked “Was there ever a time you asked for something you needed and you didn’t get it?” I thought for a moment and realized the answer. “No.” We talked for almost 2 hours. When the conversation ended, I said, “Daddy, I love you very much.” He replied, “I love you too Shug.” I never spoke to him again.

I am grateful one of us broke the “code of silence” before it was too late.

]]> By: DC Hunters http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-7 DC Hunters Mon, 11 Aug 2008 14:55:00 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-7 I have to co-sign on this. I didn't hear those words from my Dad until after he was recovering from his triple bypass surgery. <br/><br/>I didn't even know how to react. However, I will say this, If I had to choose between hearing the words and actually being in a loving positive environment. I'll choose the latter every time. <br/><br/>I didn't hear the words growing up, but I KNEW what it was to be loved. I seen other families that threw the words around a lot, but never demonstrated it to each other. I have to co-sign on this. I didn’t hear those words from my Dad until after he was recovering from his triple bypass surgery.

I didn’t even know how to react. However, I will say this, If I had to choose between hearing the words and actually being in a loving positive environment. I’ll choose the latter every time.

I didn’t hear the words growing up, but I KNEW what it was to be loved. I seen other families that threw the words around a lot, but never demonstrated it to each other.

]]> By: Glen http://www.mochadad.com/2008/08/learning-to-love/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Glen Sat, 09 Aug 2008 16:43:00 +0000 http://www.mochadad.com/?p=5#comment-4 You know as I have travelled the world I see men express affection differently from holding hands, to kisses on the cheek. We in American have a more European way of connecting with other males, but in some African countries it is totally different. It is nothing to see two men holding hands. Of course here you would be thought of as gay. Anyway it affects how we as men interact with our sons and what we teach them about male interaction. Good post. You know as I have travelled the world I see men express affection differently from holding hands, to kisses on the cheek. We in American have a more European way of connecting with other males, but in some African countries it is totally different. It is nothing to see two men holding hands. Of course here you would be thought of as gay. Anyway it affects how we as men interact with our sons and what we teach them about male interaction. Good post.

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